One night stands
by Josue Salazar
Consider this a public service announcement if you’ve either gone out or will go out with me.
See I go out a lot, and I’m not interested in a real relationship (not yet anyway), so I end up with girls who basically put out, quickly. Yes, call me a bastard all you want. The thing is, I’ve realized some women don’t understand what a one night stand means. To me it means hooking up with a girl, probably dance (in a hot latino way), and then get it on in the car, motel or the girls house.
Now the problem starts when the girl wants more, and this happens a lot when we end up having sex in her place, I mean I consider myself a generous guy, I cuddle godammit!; but when I notice a weird look when I’m getting dressed, I know it’s not good. I’m not one to spend the night, I hate spending the night with some girl I don’t know, I like my cozy bed. Anyhow it gets worse when I give out my number (which every girl asks for down here) and get a call the next day, most of the time they want to know if I’m busy a certain night, or if I want to go out with her again, which I won’t if it was just a one night stand. Hell, the girl should not be calling me anyway, if I want to go out again, I will call.
A one night stand is that, a one night thing, not a recurring thing. So please, if you’re looking for your next boyfriend don’t put out the moment you meet a nice guy, you’ll be doing both a favor. And if the guy only wants sex, then he’s a prick.
LOL, I love your honesty. I actually know women who ONLY want one night stands. I’m just not a “one-nighter”.
Well, I don’t really care who reads this (I mean I’d tell this to anyone I know face to face) so I’ve got nothing to hide.
Also part of the problem is where I live, in Costa Rica this isn’t so common. Most girls are not one-nighters. But those who I meet and seem like they fit the profile, end up being confused women.
I think, in the spirit of honesty (which you clearly do not lack), that it’s best to be very upfront about the whole matter. It may be a bit of a mood-killer (but no more so than stopping to put on a condem), but it wouldn’t hurt to make it clear to the woman (before the motel and the taxi) that all you’re interested is one night.
Who knows? The woman could feel an intense attraction to you and assume that you feel the same way and will therefore want more (Lord knows relationships have been started on less than this!)… the possibilities are truly endless. And pointless to discuss. If all you want is a one-nighter, then make it clear from the get-go and you probably won’t get those from-the-bed looks.
I agree with Erin–you should probably make sure the two of you are on the same page, so to speak, about what you each WANT out of that night (e.g., in your case, no relationship). Especially since most ticas aren’t up for one-night stands–some are, don’t get me wrong, but those who aren’t don’t need you to break their heart, Romeo.
Part of me thinks you’re a bastard, but the other part of me is very, very envious.
As long as you’re not leading them on, drugging them or infecting them, good for you.
I’ve had the grand total of 1 one-night-stand, and it wasn’t great. I personally prefer the whole cuddling aspect. And if you’ve got the energy to get out of bed, get dressed and go home, then you’re doing something wrong
Hahahaha! Abizer, you’re funny. And I agree. No man should have energy to get out of bed.
Again though, there are plenty of women in this world down for a one-nighter. Especially 21 & unders, Josue. Watch out though as they get older b/c that biological clock thing is NO FUCKING JOKE. I swear.
Anyhow, be as honest with them as you are here and you should have to problem.
p.s. Like the new template/style/layout thing. Now you just need to blog more often, k? Hehe. (Teasing)
Thanks for the feedback guys!.
Erin, I will definitely be more upfront about the whole thing from now on, you do have a point. And about older women and the biological clock and shit, you might be right, but there’s something very sexual about older women, I’m more attracted to them (not old old, but 22-30).
LeAnna, you’re right on the spot when you say most ticas aren’t up for it. And uh, I’m no Romeo
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Abizer, dude, trust me, I ain’t doing anything wrong.
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I’m older than you, Josue. Wink, wink.
one night stands hurt and i hate them. why do guys think that we want that? I had a guy that flirted and talked to me for several monthes. we went out a couple of times and he “pretended” that he liked me. when we had sex I never heard from him again. its not even so much the sex its that he pretended he was my friend. now I hate him. men need to think about that and be honest with a woman and give her a choice of whether she wants to participate in a one night stand or not. had I known I would have walked away.
Rebecca, definitely, the guy has to be upfront and if they both want it then go for it, but if the girl isn’t up for it, then it should not happen.
YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO SPEND THE NIGHT WITH A STRANGE GIRL BUT YOU WILL HAVE SEX WITH A STRANGE GIRL……SO WHATS UP WITH THAT…HAVEING SEX WITH HER COULD CAUSE YOU A LOT MORE HARM THEN SPENDING THE NIGHT IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN….hell whats wrong with spending the night,,if you tried it you might like it.especially what you will get before you leave the next morning
Yeah, you could share stories over a cigarette…:)